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Don't
believe 'everything' you hear or all that you see 'cos if you
are old enough to date then you should be old enough to know -
everything that glitters is not gold.
Now
that doesn't mean that you should go for a date with
'distrust' written all over you - leave your righteousness at
home, but carry your common sense with you. Loosen up, be
friendly and enjoy yourself (after all that's the sole purpose
of spending time together).
Go
beyond the gloss - be yourself, don't spend the time
discussing the weather and smiling at each other. By the end
of the day, if all you know about him is his name and the
number of teeth he could possibly have, then sweetheart, you
don't need me to tell that you're destined to be perfect
strangers forever
So
the key word is 'communicate', share your interests. If you
vibe well and you can strike up a lively discussion, then the
date hasn't been wasted - you've gained a friend.
Good
manners aren't just for school but for life - Be polite and
appreciative - courtesy is cool - everyone appreciates it. (If
he doesn't, what more can we say? The ultimate decision is
yours and ofcourse 'taming the barbarian' is a challenge that
some of us just can't resist. Our best wishes are with you -
after all noble savages are known to exist but seriously,
think it over once again.)
The
golden maxim girls: 'never date more than one guy at a time'
is sad but so true. If they turn out to be friends, you're in
trouble - if they're enemies, you're in trouble, apart from
this coincidental hazard there can be practical hitches too -
it can be totally confusing at times - mixing up dates,
interests, names - boy it only gets worse.
If
a person who doesn't exactly look like a Greek God, seems to
be a good guy and is fun to be with, give him a break (no, I
don't mean a B-R-E-A-K, give him a 'chance' Pay attention to
his finer points). You always have an option 'have fun with an
intellectually stimulating partner' or learn to place a dumb
Greek God on a pedestal and worship him.
NOTE:
This does NOT mean that all Greek Gods are dumb, this is where
the common sense bit comes in.
Talk to his
friends nicely when he introduces them to you, make him feel
proud of you. Don't ever criticize him in front of his
friends.
If
he asks you about your interests and your life, it does not
mean that you give him your Family Tree and the stories of
their lives. C'mon, the guy's just asked you for a date, he
does not intend to chronicle your family history. Find some
mutual interests, ask him his opinion, listen to his comments.
If he commences on his family saga, its fine if you're
interested but if you're not - just don't yawn in his face.
Try and change the topic if doesn't work, grin and bear it -
at least you know what you'll get, if you plan a second date
with him - Probably a Sequel.
If
he bristles every time you mention your friends who happen to
be boys or glares at you when you smile at that good looking
neighbor, imagine the kind of life you're going to share and
if you value your independence, wait! don't run…..yet.
Subtly but surely assert your freedom, maybe he's got a
reason. If there's one you'll find out in course of the date
and if there isn't, well you know your priorities.
If
he criticizes your choice of food or clothes, then this one is
a definite 'No go'. After you've decided to accept him as he
is, if he is still concentrating on what you should wear to
please him - you're going to end up with a nag if you don't
take care.
There
is nothing wrong with enjoying yourself, just don't drink too
much. You might end up with a headache and a possible
heartache the next morning.
Honesty
is the name of the game. If the person is genuine enough he is
going to appreciate an honest conversation (no one likes to
find out that he's been had). Fake foundations tend to crumble
in the long run. Lies or false appearances aren't going to
lead you anywhere 'cos romance thrives on trust.
Thank him
for his company always
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